Finding out Symptom and its Causes

I love this quote written by my hubby this morning

We often preoccupy ourselves with Symptoms,

We kind of live in denial of the root cause, because we find them too difficult to overcome

If we went to the root cause of the problems, 

We would be able to overcome the problems.

Most of the root cause come from our daily habits, and we don't want to change Because it is HARD-WORK ! For we do not like to do what is different from what we used to do.

Humans are Lazy by nature and we often want to look for the easiest way out

Habits can be derived into 2 categories 

It can be  Physical

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It can be Emotional 

 We get too overwhelmed by our secondary symptoms and we often overlooked the root cause of it

Secondary emotions can be : anger, frustrations, always complaining, being mean to others, rudeness, being sarcastic, always thinking the worst of others, and many more

Root caused emotions can be : insecurity, bitterness, resentment, brokeness, bad memories, a lost, and many more 
    

 Talking about our Problems is our Greatest Addiction. Break that Habit. Talk about Your Joys

Quote taken from the teenagerquotes.tumblr.com

One of our worst emotional habit is  Complaining, and ranting where people seem to love it, yet complain about that.

" This thing is so sucky, fml !  That is so wrong, why is this so . . .  and why is that so . . . Why are they doing this, why are they doing that . . . " Sounds familiar to you?

Just in my own opinion: I always feel, if it is so bad, why do you want to keep talking about it? Let me take a piece of shit for an example; if it smells terrible why do you want to keep smelling it, keep it by your side and sometimes reminiscing some more which sounds more wrong isn't it? 

 

You may ask me, what is wrong in expressing my unhappiness about certain matter?

My answer is: There is nothing wrong about that, and we ought to express our emotions

Don't misread me, there is no right or wrong in complaining.  

 What I am trying to take into context is the consequences After using this mode of expression ( In this instant, I am using complaining as an example, for some people, it may not be complaining, it can be something else like cursing, swearing and crap up your entire day )

Side note: We truly deserve to be happy and be in joy because happiness is what we are made of.

Do you get bored over yourself who is constantly in some kind of crisis which seem to be never ending?

Again, you might be asking me, " Do you think I want this crisis to happen? " 

Why is such incident recurring again? 

and again? and again? . . . .

Take a moment, run this through your mind, have some imagination

Answer to my what if 

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 What if You don't need to react negatively, angry, frustrated, blaming, wronged as if your whole world is crashing down again when such crisis arise?

Do you know such reactions are cultivated and they DEFINITELY can be changed! 

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But

" I can't help it !! " 

This may be the scream running through your mind right now.

I want to change but I simply can't help it !

How to be happy when I feel like being in the worst shit hole I've ever been in?

This colleague is like that, I am like that . . . Why . . . . 

This classmate is like . . . . I feel so hurt . . . why . . . . 

It is hard-work,  But I can promise you, it can be done.

The question is; How Desperate do you want that change?

Again, how Desperate are you willing to stay committed till you see that change?

And Again,

Lastly, how  Desperate do you want to get off that root problem?

Than talking over the Symptoms over and over again and again?

You will only change the day you've decided that you  

REALLY HAD ENOUGH OF IT !

 Everyday is a new opportunity of decision of how we want ourselves to be

.  Love . 7Kai  .