Friday, August 22, 2014

Why can't I change?



How many times we wanted a change in our lives but we won't want to do it?

We expect and hope that someday, somehow, somewhere over the rainbow, something supernatural happen and things will be never the same again?



I came across people who are complaining about their lives and yet doing nothing about it. 

I can totally understand that in certain situations/ circumstances, its hard to leave that issue that we are complaining about. 
We probably do not have a choice in some situations. 


As such:

A friend who's taking care of his mum who was suffering from stroke. It is not a desirable situation to be in for sure. But It is our duty to take care of our own parents, needless to say when they are sick. He didn't want to put his mom in a home. So he overloaded himself for years, managing between work, finances and family. He  made a choice out of inconvenience, out of love, out of his commitment to his mom. It is ok to grumble and complain at times, it is tough, we are human. Few years passed and his mom passed on. He did what he can as a son. He misses his mom, but he live no regrets.   


YET . . . .


There are situations WE CAN CHANGE, YET We give ourselves excuses to NOT CHANGE, because it is hard and INCONVENIENT, our mind wants to, but our flesh is so unwilling. 

So we just want to get by and continue to complain about it.

How about this?

Eating Junks everyday and complaining that you are fat?


RULE #1: What ever you decide to do, do it happily !

If you love fast-food, don't care about being fat. 
What is wrong of being a happy fat person ?

So when you decided to eat it, eat it happily !

But if you cannot be a happy fat person, then stop eating junk.

.Its Common Sense.

Rule #2:  No lasting-change will come out of inconsistency 

The world is providing everything that demands speed. 
To lose weight, pop some slimming pills.
It seems like anything which is the easy way out sell itself.

Look at the wide variety of slimming pills, and programs available in the market. 
lose 10KGs in 90 days.

IT WORKS !!

With Disclaimer: STOP the slimming pills after 90 days, GAIN 15KGs.

Conclusion: Even the easy and most convenient way out demands consistency. 
What more about the inconvenient persistency towards change?


Rule #3: For we cannot feed ourselves junk everyday and expect us to be healthy and slim; We CANNOT think junk thoughts everyday and expect our mind to stay happy and positive

The day I decided to be a happy person and I wanted myself to truly be one;
Inside out; filled with joy and love,

I Made a hell lot of EffortS out of inconveniences.

It is not possible to make a change in our lives if we are reluctant to put consistent effort into it. 

Because good change is never convenient !
We need to pursue it.

Pursue : to strive to gain; seek to attain or accomplish (an end, object,purpose, etc.).

We need to chase and seek, attain it. 
It will never come-by due to convenience or by feeling.


Rule #4: We can never attain a good change through feelings 

Feelings are the most unreliable thing ever, for they come and go without warning;
they can be happy now and be sad the next, 
we can wake up in the morning with no apparent reason feeling depress when everything is doing good
When we are well and healthy we feel happy,
sometimes when we are well and healthy we still do not feel happy.

We can get excited very easily and get mad over some stupid things so quickly,
feeling come and go,
they are good they are bad,
Take control over them, 
We have dominion over them not the other way round.

The MAIN reason why we CANNOT attain a good change based on feelings because they are inconsistent.

Anything that is consistent in your life will create a change in you, for feelings are flicker, it is not possible to habit a good change using feeling.


Rule #5: You need to desire it enough to make inconvenient efforts

I was looking for my pair of Gucci Ballerina Flats, 
I went to the boutique in Marina Bay Sand, they didn't have my size. 
I guess I desire it enough to make my way to Paragon to pick up my right size and carry them home with me.

I wanted them pretty much at that point of time ( I think so ) I don't really need them, yet I am willing to make that inconvenient effort.

My mind starts to wonder very much, 

We can make inconvenient efforts for wants that are not important, 

Today, why don't we make that inconvenient effort to needs that need to be alter.

Let us be overcomers, encouraging one another to continually be better and happier!


Galatian 6:9

So let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up.



Love. 7kai. 

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