Finding out Symptom and its Causes

I love this quote written by my hubby this morning

We often preoccupy ourselves with Symptoms,

We kind of live in denial of the root cause, because we find them too difficult to overcome

If we went to the root cause of the problems, 

We would be able to overcome the problems.

Most of the root cause come from our daily habits, and we don't want to change Because it is HARD-WORK ! For we do not like to do what is different from what we used to do.

Humans are Lazy by nature and we often want to look for the easiest way out

Habits can be derived into 2 categories 

It can be  Physical

 and

It can be Emotional 

 We get too overwhelmed by our secondary symptoms and we often overlooked the root cause of it

Secondary emotions can be : anger, frustrations, always complaining, being mean to others, rudeness, being sarcastic, always thinking the worst of others, and many more

Root caused emotions can be : insecurity, bitterness, resentment, brokeness, bad memories, a lost, and many more 
    

 Talking about our Problems is our Greatest Addiction. Break that Habit. Talk about Your Joys

Quote taken from the teenagerquotes.tumblr.com

One of our worst emotional habit is  Complaining, and ranting where people seem to love it, yet complain about that.

" This thing is so sucky, fml !  That is so wrong, why is this so . . .  and why is that so . . . Why are they doing this, why are they doing that . . . " Sounds familiar to you?

Just in my own opinion: I always feel, if it is so bad, why do you want to keep talking about it? Let me take a piece of shit for an example; if it smells terrible why do you want to keep smelling it, keep it by your side and sometimes reminiscing some more which sounds more wrong isn't it? 

 

You may ask me, what is wrong in expressing my unhappiness about certain matter?

My answer is: There is nothing wrong about that, and we ought to express our emotions

Don't misread me, there is no right or wrong in complaining.  

 What I am trying to take into context is the consequences After using this mode of expression ( In this instant, I am using complaining as an example, for some people, it may not be complaining, it can be something else like cursing, swearing and crap up your entire day )

Side note: We truly deserve to be happy and be in joy because happiness is what we are made of.

Do you get bored over yourself who is constantly in some kind of crisis which seem to be never ending?

Again, you might be asking me, " Do you think I want this crisis to happen? " 

Why is such incident recurring again? 

and again? and again? . . . .

Take a moment, run this through your mind, have some imagination

Answer to my what if 

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 What if You don't need to react negatively, angry, frustrated, blaming, wronged as if your whole world is crashing down again when such crisis arise?

Do you know such reactions are cultivated and they DEFINITELY can be changed! 

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But

" I can't help it !! " 

This may be the scream running through your mind right now.

I want to change but I simply can't help it !

How to be happy when I feel like being in the worst shit hole I've ever been in?

This colleague is like that, I am like that . . . Why . . . . 

This classmate is like . . . . I feel so hurt . . . why . . . . 

It is hard-work,  But I can promise you, it can be done.

The question is; How Desperate do you want that change?

Again, how Desperate are you willing to stay committed till you see that change?

And Again,

Lastly, how  Desperate do you want to get off that root problem?

Than talking over the Symptoms over and over again and again?

You will only change the day you've decided that you  

REALLY HAD ENOUGH OF IT !

 Everyday is a new opportunity of decision of how we want ourselves to be

.  Love . 7Kai  . 

  

Just Trust

Just Trust

*The still voice that whispers: Just slow down, and trust me

Come and sit with me, feel me, touch me, says God, Trust me

In amid of the business, the over-whelmed time trapped and troubled over things that are not within our control;

We have to learn that the battle is not ours but Jesus. Be still and know that He is God. Trust in Jesus to fight for us. 

Mark 5:36 " Don't be afraid, only believe"

His ways are higher than our ways and his thoughts are better than our thoughts.

When things doesn't go in our plan and strategics ways, trust in Him who is God, for His is in control, His plans are higher than what we can plan. What He can do is definitely better than what we can do. How can we out win, out smart, or out stand a God who knows the beginning and the end?

When we are troubled in our situations, angry and frustrated with things that is not happening, not done according to our ways. Don't get frustrated, for we will not know that entangled situation is preparing us for a situation coming in maybe months or years which is a stepping stone to a great destiny God has planned far ahead before we know.

Many times we look back, laugh at ourselves of how silly we are over certain issues of  life? It may be the emotional blocks back then that cause us to be blessed now. 

In the book of growth of each individuals written in His book, He only has 2 plans written.

1/ Plans to grow us

2/ Plans to prosper us

Maturity and prosperity goes hand in hand. To learn maturity and unlearn pride and ego is a difficult thing for almost every individual. To unlearn pride, we have to go through humility. We have to go through unfair treatments or situations yet choose to put down our pride and learn to be humble. 

Many times we look too hard into ourselves. Everything is about what I feel, what I think and what I want. We stumble not because of what others make us feel, its how we allow ourselves to feel. This is not easy to be not affect by the surroundings. 

This is part of God's plan to grow us. He allows the devil to put us into challenges, challenges that gives us a choice to choose. Choose Him or choose over yourself.

I am learning too.. Learning to put myself aside and always to choose Him rather than what I want instead. What I want may not be good, but I am certain what He wants to give me and give me a freewill to choose over it will be the best. 

There's something I will always remind myself of, God won't give us what we willfully want, He gives us what we need. When we willfully want certain things, He will not give it to us, but on contrary the will give us what we need, which is maturity, consistency, and stability. So whoever is reading this, and you are frustrated over certain situations in life, get ready, God is setting you up for some goodness that you need. 

Love Seven

Understand

Understand

Do you have the feeling that no one understands you?

And people falling shortfall of your standards? 

Or people who didn't measure up to what you expect?

Situations that fail you?

One who disappoints you?

This happens very much to almost everybody. Its a world we live in, balancing within ideal and reality; expectations and disappointments.I am reading my daily reading list, i start to ask myself why is the bible not just a set of rules and principles? But instead a book full or grace and mercy. Forgiveness and faith. Compassion and kindness. Truth and light. It says that the meek shall inherit the land. What is the land its talking about? I went through my study  guide and realized that it is the promises of our destiny. A destiny that leads to who God wants us to be. 

I've listening to a sermon on shame and guilt, disappointment and resentment. I relate it to the recent incident that had happened to me. Just on Christmas eve. It's completely out of my expectation and i ruin the dinner completely. Being hound by guilt and shame I didn't know how to face myself. I was extremely angry with myself and couldn't face the consequences I've resulted. I felt myself failing God and failing myself. I started my pity party on Christmas day. What a "pleasant" way to start Christmas. What a pity party to attend with just myself and me, a group of bitterness, resentment, self condemnation, guilt and unworthiness. It seems like they have gathered together like a legion. 

I shake that off me on boxing day. I made a grave mistake, and I have to face up to the consequences of that mistake causing shame to someone else. That evening on boxing day I hid into my secret closet and commune with Daddy God. I cried out to Him and pleaded Him to take away that sinful desire of mine. Alcoholism.

He showed me to proverbs 31 seriously and frankly I have to admit I didn't even know proverbs 31 ever existed.

31:4 Drunkenness might be understandable among unbelievers who are on the brink of death, but it is inexcusable for national leaders. Alcohol clouds the mind and can lead to injustice and poor decisions. Leaders have better things to do than that. (Life Application bible)

The words really slapped me hard this time round. God is totally aware of whats happening and totally. I read the words carefully over again and again. Word by word. People who are at the brink of death. Alcoholism.  But it is inexcusable for national leaders, leaders have better things to do than that. In that verse, 2 options hit me hard. One who is near death or a Leader? Its a choice. I am so upset over it and was sitting by myself looking 13th levels below me until a bangala worker appear out of nowhere from the rooftop taking photos. I looked at him and he looked at me. 

So when I saw this verse 2 hours after I came down. Proverbs 31 describes me and God gave me a choice who I want to be. Somehow I think that bangala maybe God's angel. And  God knows exactly whats going though my mind even when I shut off my thought totally from Him. Too much of guilt and condemnation, I can't feel think or have anything to do with God. I was overwhelmed. 

Coupled with the situation that I was going through and I seriously repented over it. If this hasn't happen, how would I ever know that I am not totally done with Alcoholism. Though a situation, definitely not a pleasant one, I paid a price for my action to reveal this part of me God wants to deal with, and entirely this time round. I found out in that incident that I do not understand myself that much after all but God allows this to happen to let me see myself clearly. To root this problem off once and for all. The consequences of this spiral me down into a deep deep slumber and a close to 20 hours of sleep. As usual woke up feeling as bad as it can ever be. Thankfully I didn't woke up and realizes it is 2013 like I last did in 2009. Woke up one day and realized oh, its 2010. 

Not just in handling disappointments and mistakes in our lives, we need a certain kind of mercy and grace for ourselves. This doesn't mean that we can willfully continue that mistake or allow it to happen but understand that perfection is impossible in human. We strive for perfection but in the midway when we stumble and fall in our character flaws, we need to have mercy and grace for ourselves.

In things that always seem wrong in our lives, may it be a way of living or a set of thoughts that has been teaching us to live our lives in our own ways; we learn to manage our set of in-justifications.

When a mistake is made, but seriously who will want to make a mistake on purpose so that he or she can be penalized? What's important is the valuable lessons learn in correction. If one has to make 100 mistakes to learn its correction, then hope he/she can stand the 100 consequences of the mistake made. As fast as we can move on rectify and understand which part of ourselves went wrong, we can correct it. 

Because we don't even understand ourselves, we find ourselves too complex to find the correct area to rectify the issue. 

Showing grace to ourselves during the trial and error is essential, for most part of the rectification is through the learning process of situations which are out of expectancy. Just like love is build over time, grace and mercy is build overtime as well. As much as situation come knocking on, there is a chance to exercise on the emotional muscles of the above. 

We are not god and can't play god in life too. If life is about playing the identity of god, what is there to look forward to? What is there to learn? What is the purpose of living?Why not all parent kill their babies when they are born? There must be a purpose in life. Like a friend of mine always say, its a blessing to be alive, because we still have the ability to change to make our life better.

What if everything we do were to go along with our plans and with no disappointment, setbacks, resentment, problem free at all. It that even call life? 

The main human sin character; even when things are absolutely perfect in our life, we will still be there creating problems for ourselves. Imagine a life with no setbacks, or disappointment? How do we even differentiate contentment and appreciation. 

Just like God wouldn't do our part in life, we can't play his role in life too. What we have to do is to manage ourselves and constantly adjusting to be align with what will be the best out of us. 

In this life everyone is in search of happiness and happiness can only be attain when one make peace with themselves.

I am learning too. In a process learning to show grace, kindness and mercy despite of situations. The maturity on being kind even when others are unkind with words towards me. Showing grace even when I am being treated unfairly. Sometimes a mistake made has the power to wipe away ample goodness you've done. But I told myself, don't be discourage, I am not doing it to redeem for my wrong but to do what the truth told me to be. 

Love

Peace

Gentleness

Faithfulness

Goodness

Patience

Kindness

Self control

Determination