Compare
In the world which is constantly telling us who is better and who is not, shaping who we are into the voices of others. As a teacher, a mentor to the children in which I am really honored to be, in the eyes of parents and students;
I often tell the parents to not compare their children with others, in between siblings and even identical twin. Every single individual is special and unique.
I am teaching today and was sadden of how my 5 year old is has to keep in a constant challenge to his identical twins who somehow happens to be more musically incline.
As a 5 year old boy, he bug me what and how is his brother doing during lesson. What songs did he play? and so on, and on. This kept me thinking. Lesson for him today is simple. No music concepts, I just taught him to be himself, doesn't matter what little brother is playing today, he is himself and he ought to be given full attention to be who he is.
I explained to the parents of what I will be teaching him and lesser of the music exam syllabus to build up a healthy self image for their child. Most parents will accept my suggestions even when theres nothing to do with music. I guess they can feel the love I have for the child. Music is to train determination, well being, and a healthy growth in child's development. In all general in some course to shape a good character out of the child.
Kids are confined to praises and encouragements. To gain the recognition of their parents and other adults, they often get into an attention seeking realm to gain their self images through praises.
Sometimes, they share things not because they really want to, but often to seek a good boy self image instead.
Personally I do not find this healthy. If a child is being brought up to gain their self image according to human praises, its gotta be a tough time before they realizes the world is full of critics. If your self image is based on human praises and well sayings, it means it will be based on critics and skeptics. If praise and applause can gain your confident, it means critics will have the equal power to pull your self image downwards.
Ponder about it.
Seven
In the world which is constantly telling us who is better and who is not, shaping who we are into the voices of others. As a teacher, a mentor to the children in which I am really honored to be, in the eyes of parents and students;
I often tell the parents to not compare their children with others, in between siblings and even identical twin. Every single individual is special and unique.
I am teaching today and was sadden of how my 5 year old is has to keep in a constant challenge to his identical twins who somehow happens to be more musically incline.
As a 5 year old boy, he bug me what and how is his brother doing during lesson. What songs did he play? and so on, and on. This kept me thinking. Lesson for him today is simple. No music concepts, I just taught him to be himself, doesn't matter what little brother is playing today, he is himself and he ought to be given full attention to be who he is.
I explained to the parents of what I will be teaching him and lesser of the music exam syllabus to build up a healthy self image for their child. Most parents will accept my suggestions even when theres nothing to do with music. I guess they can feel the love I have for the child. Music is to train determination, well being, and a healthy growth in child's development. In all general in some course to shape a good character out of the child.
Kids are confined to praises and encouragements. To gain the recognition of their parents and other adults, they often get into an attention seeking realm to gain their self images through praises.
Sometimes, they share things not because they really want to, but often to seek a good boy self image instead.
Personally I do not find this healthy. If a child is being brought up to gain their self image according to human praises, its gotta be a tough time before they realizes the world is full of critics. If your self image is based on human praises and well sayings, it means it will be based on critics and skeptics. If praise and applause can gain your confident, it means critics will have the equal power to pull your self image downwards.
Ponder about it.
Seven
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